Couples Therapy Services
Online Couples Therapy
Most couples don’t seek help because of one argument.
They reach out because something in the relationship no longer feels steady.
Because the same painful rhythm keeps returning—sharper words, longer silences, familiar hurt.
Because they’ve tried to fix it on their own and still feel out of sync.
This is where I step in.
I offer online couples therapy and online marriage counseling for partners who care deeply about each other but feel caught in patterns they can’t escape.
For couples navigating high conflict, emotional distance, shutdown, blame, panic, rage, or the aftermath of betrayal.
For the ones quietly asking:
Is it too late for us? Can we reconnect? Where do we begin?
My work helps you slow the chaos so you can actually see what’s happening between you. Not just the arguments, but the emotions underneath them.
The hurt that doesn’t get spoken.
The fear that shows up as anger or withdrawal.
The closeness that’s still there, even if it feels far away.
I don’t choose sides.
I guide you toward a space where both of you can be understood, where your reactions make sense, and where connection can rebuild without pressure or blame.
Where love stops feeling fragile and starts feeling reliable again.
I work with couples across the U.S., with a special focus on couples therapy in Minnesota and couples therapy in Oregon, as well as partners nationwide seeking marriage counseling online grounded in attachment and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
You don’t need to show up perfect.
You don’t need to feel calm.
You only need to come willing to be honest and open to the possibility of repair.
get honest—and stay curious.
I work with couples who are facing:
• Intense conflict that escalates quickly — raised voices, sharp reactions, doors closing, and arguments that leave both partners shaken
• Long stretches of silence where neither person knows how to reach the other
• A sense of emotional disappearance — the relationship feels present on paper but absent in daily life
• The fear that they may be too different to find their way back
• Patterns tied to blurred boundaries, over-functioning, or old survival habits that feel impossible to shift
• Conversations that break down before they begin, no matter how hard they try
• Reactions shaped by past trauma, where both partners feel raw and easily overwhelmed
• The impact of depression, anxiety, ADHD, or other mental health concerns that add strain to the relationship
• Ongoing tension around one partner’s substance use and the confusion that follows
• Broken trust after betrayal — whether emotional, physical, or digital
• Serious consideration of separation or divorce
• A growing imbalance in emotional labor, decision-making, or responsibility
• Conflicting stories about what the “real problem” is, with both partners feeling unheard
• The pain of an affair and the uncertainty about what healing might look like
Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread;
remade all the time, made new.
- Ursula K. Le Guin
This Work Is For You If…
You’re stuck in the same painful pattern—arguments that flare, go silent, or turn sharp in ways you never expected.
You feel like you’re always the one reaching… or always the one retreating because the pressure feels too much.
You’ve tried to talk about what hurts, but the conversations collapse into shutdowns, spirals, or nights spent apart.
You’re walking on eggshells. Or drifting into numbness. Or quietly wondering if this version of your relationship is the best it can be.
You barely recognize the way you show up with each other—and you miss the parts of yourselves that used to feel steady and warm.
You hold back the truth because you’re afraid of the reaction, afraid of the distance, or afraid of causing one more crack.
You want to stay, but the way things are now doesn’t feel livable.
This work isn’t about winning, fixing your partner, or keeping score.
It’s about finding the emotional signal that’s been lost beneath the conflict—so your reactions stop coming from fear and start coming from honesty.
If you’re willing to show up, stay present, and try a different way of relating, there’s a real path forward.
