High-conflict couples often find traditional therapy unhelpful, sometimes even worsening their situation. Here’s why:
Poor Session Control
Effective session management is crucial for preventing unproductive arguments. A skilled therapist should contain interactions, guiding you toward more productive ways of communicating and ensuring the session remains constructive.
Premature Skill Teaching
Techniques like active listening and using "I statements" are beneficial, but only when the couple is prepared. High-conflict couples often need to address underlying patterns and issues before these communication techniques can be effective.
Focusing on Comments Instead of Patterns
Focusing on specific hurtful comments can exacerbate conflicts. The emphasis should be on breaking the cycle of negative interactions rather than dissecting the details of individual arguments.
What Now? HZB Therapy is dedicated to helping high-conflict couples break harmful cycles and build closer connections. If you're ready to change the way you fight, reach out today.